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If you have been actively approaching and talking to women, you are safe and probably noticed something about some of your interactions wit...

How To Handle Rejection From Women

If you have been actively approaching and talking to women, you are safe
and probably noticed something about some of your interactions with them.
These interactions do not work the way you want.

How To Handle Rejection From Women
How To Handle Rejection From Women

Where you have no smile back ...
Where do you have nothing back to your hello ...
Where you have a cold shoulder ...
You do not have to worry too much about how it makes you feel.

Down, sad, frustrated and just rejected ...

Do not worry, I was there. More than I would ever want you to experience. So let me tell you my secret, that will allow me to become who I am today. Let me tell you something about rejection that will absolutely blow you away ...

There is no rejection!

No need to go back and see if you've read that wrong - you read it the first time.

There is NO such rejection.

It is a fictitious name. The feeling of rejection is an invented emotion.

It's really just a scare and an apology. It's something that allows you to stay in the Friends Zone, prevent you from approaching women and leaving you alone.

That's not even the worst of what that term means. The biggest thing that rejects, protects you from going out and taking the action that gets you what you really want.

How many times have you not talked to a beautiful woman in the gym because you said that if you did not like you, you would be forced to find a new gym?

How many times have you seen the same attractive woman in the elevator of your building, but you never talk to her, because if she refuses you, will you be forced to take the stairs?

Here is the reason why I say that there is really no rejection.

It's just the excuse you use so you do not have to break out of your comfort zone and try.

That's really what it is.

The truth is that if you are not ready to try - to approach, talk to, and learn the woman - then you can just sit back and do nothing. I know, that may sound hard, but some of you need a bit of "hard love".

Nothing and nobody (even the most successful people) are 100% successful.

A quarterback is considered successful if he completes 65% of his passes. The other 35%? Well, these passports go in all directions. They are dumped, intercepted, dropped, run over or whatever it is. A top baseball player receives three strokes for every ten strokes. He can strike the other seven times, but still he will be in the Hall of Fame because he is a lifelong hitter of .300. A good seller who leads ten and closes only one of them will be the one who lives in a beautiful house on top of a hill and can afford all the great toys.

And the list goes on and on ...

While this is true in every part of life, the boys seem to find a "safe-to-use," guaranteed way to approach women before they even go out and try. If a conversation or rapprochement does not work then they use the apology of refusing to not go out and try again.

Why? They think that if they can not be guaranteed that they will never be "rejected", something will not work.

The truth is that no matter what you do, how you look or who you are, there will be women who you find attractive, who are not interested in you. As long as you are outside and meeting women, it will happen from time to time.

It happens EVERYONE ... anyone out there meeting people and going there.

Once you accept that, the only question is:

"How do you handle it when it happens?"

You will say, "Who cares ?!" and you will go on to the next one.

That's it! You should spend as much time focusing on it.

It's about attitude.

I do not care if a woman does not like me. This woman I see through the room is YOUR loss if she does not like me. This is how I meet every encounter.

Here is the key. I'd rather go straight to this woman and find out right away if she likes me or not, in contrast to being wondering, obsessive and speculative about how so many men do.

How many times have you seen a sweet woman at Starbucks, but instead of talking to her, you just ordered your coffee and went home? Then you went home and spent most of the day analyzing it, analyzing it, and discussing it with your friends.

You swear you'll talk to her next time, but then you will not talk to her the next time you see her. Then, if you muster enough courage to talk to her, she'll blow you off. It does not work. So you tell yourself, "I'll never approach another woman at Starbucks because it's obviously not working."

Here is something else, how I do it and how YOU have to do it from now on. , ,

I'll go to her and talk to her when I see her for the first time. I will not hesitate. Right from the start, I'll find out if we have chemistry or not. If we do not, I will not let it live. I move on to the next one (and to the next and the next, if need be) because that's the way life works.

Everything in your life that has worked has happened because you have moved on and the past has not stopped you. You need to keep moving forward in your dating life just as you would in any other area of ​​your life.

Not only that, but you must be able to go forward without going through the process of analysis (and often over-analysis) of every meeting or conversation that did not work. You do not have to criticize every movement you make or things like "maybe I should have smiled more" or "maybe I would not have had to say (or do) that".

As long as I know that I have done the most important things - observed, smiled, spoken with positive enthusiasm and had great eye contact and listen - there is nothing else to repeat or analyze. Your reaction to these things is irrelevant. If you do not have reciprocal chemistry, then you just go on to the next one.

If you are fearless with women, it really depends on having this attitude - and really believing it. It is understanding (and once again really believing) that there is no rejection.

Think about the alternative. What would happen if Peyton Manning, after throwing an interception, thought, "Oh my god, I could throw another interception, so I better not go out and throw more passes?"

Sounds ridiculous in this context, right?

It is no different when it comes to meeting women.

There is no rejection. It's about reprogramming your mind.